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Clare.

Filed Under: Personal & Life Updates 62 Comments

I’m sad to share that last Wednesday, we found the baby no longer had a heartbeat.  I delivered our  teeny tiny daughter, Clare at almost 22 weeks on Friday.

We are heartbroken and grieving. Life makes no sense right now.

Clare-Marie - 1

You would have been in the best family, Clare. You had the very best big brother there ever was. We’re so sad you won’t get to join us. I wish we didn’t have to say goodbye and hello on the same day. I wish I was still pregnant and you were still growing inside of me.

The baby was a girl. A daughter. I’ll never get to see my only daughter grow up.

If our love could have saved you, you would have lived forever.

Clare Marie Cadaret
April 29, 2016

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  1. HereWeGoAJen says

    May 6, 2016 at 10:29 am

    Your baby will always be missed and remembered. Love to all of you, especially your Clare.

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  2. Feisty Harriet says

    May 6, 2016 at 10:32 am

    Oh Ashley, I am so sorry for such a tremendous loss. Hugs and prayers for your whole family.

    xox

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  3. Mary d says

    May 6, 2016 at 10:37 am

    I am so sorry. Praying for your whole family.

    Reply
  4. Kate says

    May 6, 2016 at 10:39 am

    Oh, Ashley, I am so sad for you & your family, for baby Clare & the life she didn’t get to have with your wonderful family – such loving parents & kind big brothers. I’m sending so much love your way right now.

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  5. Kristen says

    May 6, 2016 at 10:41 am

    I’m so incredibly sorry for what you’ve been enduring and grieving. Please remember you have an entire army of love and support coming to you and your family now and always.

    Reply
  6. Natali C says

    May 6, 2016 at 10:49 am

    My sweet friend. There are truly no words. Just tears. My heart aches for and with you. What beautiful little hands and feet. How I wish there was anything in the world I could do to stop the hurt for you. Sending love and prayers for peace beyond understanding. I love the name you chose.

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  7. Wendryn says

    May 6, 2016 at 10:50 am

    I’m so sorry. That’s such a hard thing to go through. *hugs hugs* and all the good thoughts I have for you and your family as you heal.

    Reply
  8. Jess says

    May 6, 2016 at 10:55 am

    I am in tears reading this. I am just so, so sorry. Clare has such a wonderful family and is so, so loved. I am so mad and sad that you all got deprived of a life together with her. So much love to you and your family. We will remember Clare.

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  9. LizScott says

    May 6, 2016 at 10:58 am

    Oh, Ashley. All my heart and warmth to you and your family. This makes no goddamn sense, and it never will.

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  10. Katie says

    May 6, 2016 at 11:07 am

    I’m so, so sorry for the loss of baby Clare. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  11. Stacey Tibbs says

    May 6, 2016 at 11:07 am

    I’m so sorry for your incredible loss, Ashley. There aren’t enough words in the world to do it justice. Just know that I’m thinking of you, Mike, Gabe and Theo and wishing I could do more.

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  12. Becca Sanborn says

    May 6, 2016 at 11:11 am

    Clare will always be loved and remembered. Beautiful name for a precious baby girl. I’m so sorry for your loss.

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  13. Lawrie says

    May 6, 2016 at 11:15 am

    I’m so, so sorry for your loss, Ashley. This is so heartbreaking and unfair.

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  14. Tracy says

    May 6, 2016 at 11:39 am

    Sweet Ashley. Just looking at your sweet baby’s handprints and footprints, I cry at the utter perfection of her. Her name is beautiful. I am so sorry.

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  15. Megan says

    May 6, 2016 at 11:50 am

    My heart is breaking for you and your sweet family. Life is awfully unfair and I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Sending hugs and prayers to you.

    <3

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  16. Marnie says

    May 6, 2016 at 11:58 am

    I am so sorry. Your sweet Clare will always be remembered. Thinking of you and your family.

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  17. Jessica says

    May 6, 2016 at 12:28 pm

    I’m so sorry, Ashley. My thoughts are with you, Mike, Gabe, Theo, and your sweet daughter Clare as you navigate this terrible heartbreak.

    Reply
  18. Lacey Bean says

    May 6, 2016 at 12:34 pm

    I hurt so bad for you right now. I am so, so sorry you are all going through this and experiencing this loss. My heart goes out to you and the family.

    Reply
  19. Keri says

    May 6, 2016 at 12:51 pm

    I’m very sorry, Ashley. Praying for comfort, for you and your family.

    Reply
  20. Erin @ The Speckled Palate says

    May 6, 2016 at 1:02 pm

    Oh, Ashley. This post and news absolutely breaks my heart. Thinking of you and your family and sending so many prayers your way as y’all grieve the loss of your sweet baby girl.

    Reply
  21. Jesabes says

    May 6, 2016 at 1:03 pm

    I’m so sorry, Ashley. This shouldn’t happen. I’m praying for all five of you, including sweet Clare.

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  22. Jimaie Shelton says

    May 6, 2016 at 1:12 pm

    I’m absolutely heartbroken for you, Ash :( I wish there was something I could do or say to take away the pain, it’s just not fair. Clare’s tiny prints are so perfect & precious…I can only fathom how broken you must feel and I am so so sorry for that sweet friend. Praying for peace for all 4 of you but esp for your mama heart <3

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  23. Margaret says

    May 6, 2016 at 1:18 pm

    I’m so sorry. What a painful loss.

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  24. San says

    May 6, 2016 at 1:20 pm

    How cruel that she was taken from you so far into your pregnancy, how cruel you had to give birth to her to say hello and goodbye on the same day, so cruel she doesn’t get to grow up as part of your beautiful, loving family. I am so heartbroken for you and Mike and Gabe and Theo and all the rest of your family and friends who are grieving with you. Lots of love. <3

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  25. Christina says

    May 6, 2016 at 1:55 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Ashley. I can’t even imagine your pain. I’ll be praying for you and your family.

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  26. Jane says

    May 6, 2016 at 2:13 pm

    My heart aches for you. I am so sorry.

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  27. Jess says

    May 6, 2016 at 2:21 pm

    I am so, so sorry.

    Reply
  28. Emily says

    May 6, 2016 at 2:32 pm

    I’m so very sorry Ashley. You and your family are in my thoughts. I know Clare is loved and dearly missed.

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  29. Heather B says

    May 6, 2016 at 3:26 pm

    Praying for you!

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  30. Rebecca | Seven2Seven8 says

    May 6, 2016 at 4:10 pm

    Oh Ashley! My heart is breaking for you and your family. I am so sorry that you lost Clare. Sending thoughts of peace and comfort and healing for your hearts. She will be with you forever.

    Reply
  31. Rachel @ It's A Hero says

    May 6, 2016 at 4:17 pm

    I am oh so sorry, Ashley. I am so heartbroken for your family. Love to you all… XO

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  32. Eva says

    May 6, 2016 at 4:53 pm

    My heart is aching for you and your family. I am so sorry this is happening to you. May you find comfort and peace knowing that Clare will always be a part of your family.

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  33. Sonya @glamomommy says

    May 6, 2016 at 5:14 pm

    Ashley, I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet Clare. It’s so unfair. I wish it could be different. Praying for you and your family.

    Reply
  34. Kelly says

    May 6, 2016 at 6:44 pm

    Clare is very loved by all of us, and so are you and your whole family. I am so, so sorry Ashley.

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  35. Mary Frances says

    May 6, 2016 at 8:18 pm

    I am just so very sorry. Holding you and Clare in the light.

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  36. Lydia says

    May 6, 2016 at 8:45 pm

    There’s no words. I’m so sorry about your sweet Clare. Wishing you and your boys peace in the coming days and months.

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  37. Lindsay says

    May 6, 2016 at 8:51 pm

    My condolences. I am so sorry.

    Reply
  38. Sarah says

    May 6, 2016 at 9:09 pm

    I’m so sorry. I’ve been thinking of you and your family.

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  39. Aly @ Breathe Gently says

    May 6, 2016 at 9:09 pm

    So many prayers to your sweet girl and your family. Love from ours to yours. x

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  40. Rachael says

    May 6, 2016 at 9:29 pm

    My heart is breaking for you and your family. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. I’m so sorry.

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  41. Cheryl says

    May 6, 2016 at 10:13 pm

    Ashley, wow. My heart is so heavy reading this. I’m so so SO sorry you lost Clare this way.

    Sending you love and holding heaviness on behalf of you and your sweet family. And wishing you courage to face the next moment and the next and the next…I can’t imagine how hard that must be. I pray you can be kind to yourselves. It’s all anyone can do. ❤️

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  42. Margaret says

    May 7, 2016 at 12:05 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss. What a lovely name for a lovely baby.

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  43. Rosemary says

    May 7, 2016 at 12:18 am

    I am so sorry for your loss.

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  44. Sarah says

    May 7, 2016 at 8:48 am

    I’m so sorry for the loss of beautiful Clare. You and your family are in my thoughts.

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  45. Melissa says

    May 7, 2016 at 11:33 am

    You, Clare, Mike, Gabe, & Theo are in my thoughts.
    Your daughter will be remembered, always.
    All of us, far and near, love you & your family so much. xo

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  46. Rebecca says

    May 7, 2016 at 2:21 pm

    I am sorry for the loss of your beautiful Clare.

    Thank you for sharing her amazing hand- and footprints with us.

    Much love to all of you…

    Reply
  47. Meg says

    May 7, 2016 at 5:06 pm

    No!!! I am so very, very sorry. So unfair. My heart is broken for you. xo

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  48. Laura says

    May 8, 2016 at 7:32 am

    Ashley, I am so sorry for your loss. Sending love and support to you and your beautiful family.

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  49. Sheila says

    May 8, 2016 at 10:06 pm

    I’m so very sorry. :( Thinking of you & your family.

    Reply
  50. Irene says

    May 9, 2016 at 12:14 am

    Long time reader and IG follower, first time commenter. So incredibly sorry for your unspeakable loss. I’ll be thinking of you and your family. I hope you find some small comfort in the uncreative but sincere words of a stranger. <3

    Reply
  51. Aileen says

    May 9, 2016 at 4:31 am

    There are no words I can say to comfort you but I want you to know how very very sorry I am for you and your family. My heart goes out to you and like so many people I wish there was something I could do to help you. Sending all my love and hugs to you all. xxxx

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  52. Ris says

    May 9, 2016 at 9:53 am

    Oh sweet Clare. I’m so, so sorry for your loss.

    Reply
  53. Heather Shoberg says

    May 9, 2016 at 2:18 pm

    I am so very sorry for your loss… there are simply no words.

    Reply
  54. Jen says

    May 9, 2016 at 3:20 pm

    What a beautiful name for such a beloved baby. xo.

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  55. Meg says

    May 9, 2016 at 5:12 pm

    I’m so deeply sorry for you all. Your beautiful girl would have been a wonderful addition to your family and I’m so sad for you all that it’s not to be.

    Reply
  56. neha says

    May 10, 2016 at 2:17 am

    I am truly So sorry for your loss. :(

    Reply
  57. Crystal says

    May 10, 2016 at 10:29 am

    I’m so very sorry, Ashley. I can’t imagine the grief you must have right now. You were a wonderful mother to your daughter for every moment she was a part of this world. You kept her warm and surrounded her with love. She will always be remembered, by people who never even got the chance to meet her–but most of all, by her family. Her mom, her dad, and her two older brothers. I pray that you will move through this season of grief with the comfort that you need each day brought in little ways that let you know she sees you, she knows you, and one day you will both be reunited to build your relationship in all the ways you wish you could now.

    Reply
  58. lauryn says

    May 10, 2016 at 12:43 pm

    I’m so very sorry for your loss Ashley. You will always be her mother and she will always be your daughter. Sending love to you.

    Reply
  59. Erin says

    May 10, 2016 at 1:22 pm

    What a beautiful name, and what a beautiful tribute to a baby who was so very loved by so many. xoxo

    Reply
  60. katelin says

    May 10, 2016 at 3:25 pm

    Sending all of the love. ALL OF IT. xoxoxo

    Reply
  61. cari says

    May 10, 2016 at 8:44 pm

    Sending big, big hugs your way. I’m so sorry your family has to go through this pain.

    Reply
  62. Karinny says

    May 12, 2016 at 3:02 pm

    So sorry for your loss :( I will just be sad here with you, praying for your family.

    Reply

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