How to Support a Friend Who’s Lost a Baby.
Almost five months ago now, I lost a baby at 21 weeks of pregnancy. In the time since, I’ve gone to therapy and support groups and talked with countless other women who’ve lost babies. One thing is in common – support is so key to getting through this. I’ve been already asked how to supportRead the whole post >>
Our new city. Yay. I…feel like making goals again. Setting intentions. Having some hopes and aspirations. Screen detox for Theo* // I’ve been using screens to keep him busy while we packed and moved and unpacked without any family nearby to help, but it turns him into a MONSTER. Gabe can handle screens without losingRead the whole post >>
It’s Been A While.
The physician assistant smiles at me. “So tell me about yourself.” “Well, I’m pretty boring, health-wise-“ she laughs. I take a deep breath and try to be breezy, “Except for pregnancy. I have, uh, I had a son and then two miscarriages, then another son, then lost a baby at 21 weeks in April.” Her faceRead the whole post >>
Six weeks ago I was at the hospital. I was dreading going to the labor and delivery floor to give birth to my dead baby. I was so scared of walking in and seeing some hugely pregnant woman getting admitted and getting ready to meet her baby while I was there with my undersized bumpRead the whole post >>
I looked outside and suddenly there are flowers and the trees are lush with leaves and the grass is bright green. The earth is brimming with life and yet, I have none. Okay, that sounds more melodramatic than I intended. I’m not sad and lonely and depressed all the time – but being pregnant, I feltRead the whole post >>
I’m sad to share that last Wednesday, we found the baby no longer had a heartbeat. I delivered our teeny tiny daughter, Clare at almost 22 weeks on Friday. We are heartbroken and grieving. Life makes no sense right now. You would have been in the best family, Clare. You had the very best big brother there everRead the whole post >>
Heavy.
I don’t know how to write this. The baby isn’t okay. It probably won’t be joining us. We are crushed and heartbroken. There are a lot of details and confusion swirling around in my head right now, but here is some of it: At our anatomy scan on Wednesday, we found out that the babyRead the whole post >>
Cheesy toddler smiles, a new (temporary?) edgy haircut, and brothers! 1. Baby stuff I’m 19 weeks pregnant (I think? Maybe it’s tomorrow, to be honest I don’t remember my due date exactly.) and feeling mostly better. Far less queasy, but I’m still popping the unisom and b6 2-3 times a day. I haven’t felt theRead the whole post >>
I stopped blogging monthly goals because I felt like I was just setting the same kinds of goals over and over without making any permanent progress. Shouldn’t I be able to eventually stop having, say, drink enough water as a goal and just DO IT? I last blogged my goals four months ago, and I realizedRead the whole post >>
Why the Outer Banks? We were trying to decide whether to spend Mike’s week of spring break (perk of his new job, woo!) alternating work times like we do in the summer (one person works morning, the other afternoons, swapping child care) or travel somewhere for a vacation. Some plans to head to Florida fellRead the whole post >>
